12 years old Pune girl files DV against Father

http://www.indianexpress.com/news/12yrold-girl-files-petition-against-father/479398/

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"12-yr-old girl files case against dad"

In a first-of-its-kind use of the stringent Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005, a 12-year-old girl has moved a complaint against her father alleging "mental and emotional violence."

Anita (name changed on request), whose parents are divorced, moved a complaint in a Pune court on June 20, two month after her father obtained a stay order against her moving from a boarding school in Tamil Nadu to Pune, where her mother resides.

Anita wants to move to a school in Pune as she feels "alone and homesick" after her elder sister passed out of the school earlier this year.

"The child should not be made a victim of the blown-up egos of the parents. She should not be used as a toy by her parents," said Asim Sarode, Anita's lawyer.

Anita's petition alleges that her mother had informed her father "in good faith and as a law abiding citizen" about her intention of studying in a school closer to home.

Her father then moved a family court and obtained a stay on Anita moving out of her boarding school in Tamil Nadu.

The parents possess joint custody of Anita, according to the compromise petition they signed five years ago during their judicial separation.

Sarode alleged Anita's father had failed to pay her school fees on several occasions and has violated several other clauses of the compromise petition.

"And now even the welfare of the child is not being considered by the father," said Sarode.

Anita has also alleged that her father has attempted to meet her at the boarding school without informing the school authorities, violating school rules.

This, she claimed, amounts to "gross mental, emotional, psychological violence against her" as it makes her "feel helpless and angry because he disregards her wishes".

Through the petition, Anita has also asked the court to stop her father from "playing with her emotions to take revenge with her mother or by dragging her unnecessarily in their difference of opinion".

Anita's mother said she was aware her daughter had filed the complaint and refused to comment further.  Her father could not be contacted despite repeated attempts.

A Pune court will hear Anita's complaint on Monday.

Two minors in jail in dowry case

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Police indifference lands two minors in jail
25 Jun 2009, 2253 hrs IST, TNN
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KENDRAPADA: Two children have been in Kendrapada sub-jail ever since their father, grandfather and grandmother were arrested a week ago for
allegedly killing their mother. Rojalini (6) and Swadhin (2) a week were left alone at their house in Srirampur, Pattamundei after the arrest. Sothe police also lodged them in jail.

"Both the kids are in the sub-jail thanks to the police's negligence. Police should have handed the children to their maternal grandparents or found a children's home for them," human rights activist Prafulla Naik said. Damayanti Mallik, the chidlren's mother, allegedly committed suicide by setting herself afire last week. Later, her father filed an FIR at Pattamundei police station and alleged that his daughter was burnt to death by her husband and in-laws. "After arresting them, police produced them in the court of Judicial Magistrate First Class (JMFC) at Pattamundai . The court rejected their bail applications and remanded them in jail," a police officer said.

"The state's women and child development department and some NGOs run boarding schools for children of prisoners in Bhubenswar and other places. Police and jail authority should admit them to these or other children's homes," senior lawyer of Kendrapada Saroj Raj Singh said.
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Heavier women have lower quality relationships

Heavier women are more likely to have a lower quality relationship, but the same is not true for men, according to a latest study. Heavier women have lower quality relationships (Getty Images) Dr. Janet D. Latner, a professor of Psychology at the University of Hawaii and her colleagues examined body image, weight, romantic relationships and differences between men and women. The study suggested that heavier women had lower quality relationships, which they predicted were more likely to end. They also partnered with less desirable men and believed that their partners would rate them as less warm/trustworthy. Furthermore, the partners of heavier women rated these women's bodies less positively and judged them as poorer matches to their ideal partners for attractiveness. In general, for heavier men, similar findings were not reported. Dr. Latner said: "Prejudice and discrimination are commonly directed at overweight individuals. However, few previous studies have examined whether weight stigma occurs within established romantic relationships. Our results suggest it does."

Source : http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/lifestyle/heavier-women-have-lower-quality-relationship/articleshow/4696852.cms

Statistics of a Fatherless America

http://www.photius.com/feminocracy/facts_on_fatherless_kids.html
 
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census) 
 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes 
 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Source: Center for Disease Control) 
 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978.) 
 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools.) 
 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Source: Rainbows for all God`s Children.) 
 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988) 
 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)

There were more than three million reports of alleged child abuse and neglect in 1995.. However, two million of those complaints were without foundation or false! (Source: National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect (NCCAN) Child Maltreatment 1995: Reports From the States to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System)

 

 

Do we want the same in India? ~Atit

महिलाही पडताहेत व्यसनांच्या बळी (व्हिडिओ स्टोरी)

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पुणे - महिलांसाठी स्वतंत्र वॉर्ड सुरू करावा लागणं, हेच महिलांमधील व्यसनाधीनता वाढल्याचं निदर्शक. व्यसनमुक्तीसाठी येणाऱ्या महिलांचं वाढतं प्रमाण लक्षात घेऊन मुक्तांगण या व्यसनमुक्ती केंद्रानं नुकताच महिलांसाठी स्वतंत्र वॉर्ड सुरू केला आहे.

व्हिडिओ पाहण्यासाठी इथे क्लिक करा

याबाबत मुक्ता पुणतांबेकर म्हणाल्या, की २३ वर्षांपूर्वी जेव्हा मुक्तांगण सुरू झालं, तेव्हापासून आतापर्यंत केवळ पुरुषच व्यसनमुक्तीसाठी येत असत. गेल्या दोन- तीन वर्षांत मात्र, मुक्तांगणच्या बाह्यरुग्ण सेवेचा लाभ घेण्यासाठी महिलाही येऊ लागल्या. मधल्या काळात त्याचं प्रमाण इतकं वाढलं, की आम्हाला महिलांसाठी स्वतंत्र वॉर्ड सुरू करावा लागला. सध्या येथे १५ महिला उपचार घेत आहेत.

मुक्तांगणच्या बाह्यरुग्ण सेवा आणि आंतर्रुग्ण सेवेचा लाभ घेणाऱ्या एकूण महिलांमध्ये एनआरआय महिलांचे प्रमाण मोठे असल्याचेही आढळून आले आहे. त्याचबरोबर मध्यमवयीन महिला आणि त्यापाठोपाठ आयटी प्रोफेशनल तसेच कॉल सेंटर्समध्ये काम करणाऱ्या तरुण मुली व्यसनांच्या आहारी गेल्याचेही दिसून आले आहे.

घरातील जबाबदाऱ्या संपल्यामुळे, मुले स्वतंत्र झाल्याने आणि पती कामाच्या व्यापामुळे वेळ देऊ शकत नसल्याने एकट्या पडलेल्या महिला व्यसनाच्या आहारी जातात. नैराश्‍यामुळे झोपेच्या गोळ्या, दारू आदी व्यसन त्यांना लागतात. तर, तरुणींच्याबाबत नेमके उलटे चित्र पहायला मिळते. त्यामध्ये या मुलींमध्ये कमी वयात भरपूर पैसा आलेला असतो. त्याबरोबर शनिवार, रविवार अशी जोडून सुट्टी मिळते. आठवड्याचे पाच दिवस जीवतोड काम केल्यानंतर विकएंड जंगी पद्धतीने सेलिब्रेट करण्याची यांची वृत्ती असते. शिवाय रिलॅक्‍सेशनही हवेच असते. त्यामुळे दारू पिण्याकडे यांचा कल असतो. त्यातून पुढे व्यसन जडते.

पार्ट्या, घरातील मोकळं वातावरण यामुळेदेखील महिलांना व्यसन लागत असल्याचे निरीक्षण मुक्ता यांनी नोंदविले.

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Convert to Islam, bypass bigamy laws?

Most people famously proclaim that love is their religion, but there are some who use religion for love. Perhaps one such is Haryana's former deputy

Chand and Fiza
More Pictureschief minister Chander Mohan, who became Chand Mohammed to marry his new love Anuradha Bali.

Mohan was with Seema Bishnoi, his wife of 13 years, when he met and fell in love with Bali. The Hindu Marriage Act 1955 does not allow a man to take a second wife so Mohan converted to Islam. So did Bali. Both dropped their Hindu names and assumed Muslim ones.

She became Fiza Parveen. And thus began a salacious soap opera played out before the media - Mohan abandons Fiza, who attempts suicide. She accuses him of playing with her sentiments and using religion to make a mockery of her love. He returns to Bishnoi, then dramatically goes back to Fiza. Was religion used and abused to commit adultery?

It is not the first time a high-profile Hindu couple has converted to Islam to 'marry' even though the first wife is alive. More than two decades ago, film stars Dharmendra and Hema Malini married secretly. Women activists protested against the "illegal" marriage. Dharmendra, they pointed out, was already married and had teenaged children. But in order to give legitimacy to his union with Hema Malini, the couple had converted to Islam.

Advocate and activist Neelofar Akhtar says that such conversions and marriages are made worse because they both are a "sham". She points out that "there are no strict laws to register a conversion (so) people are misusing the religion to have more than one wife. In all Muslim countries, there are very stringent rules if a man wants to take a second wife". But in India "it is done this easily. There is need for a regulatory body to monitor such misuse."

Akhtar makes a good point. In 1995, the Supreme Court ruled in the Sarla Mudgal case that under the Hindu Marriage Act 1955, a Hindu husband cannot marry a second time simply by embracing Islam without lawfully dissolving the first marriage. He would be guilty of bigamy, the Court ruled.

V Mohini Giri, chairperson of the social service organization Guild of Service and former head of the National Commission for Women, says, "Dharmendra's wife Prakash Kaur could have fought her case in court. But, like most Indian women who have been conditioned to ultimately accept their husbands' mistakes, she didn't complain and the controversy died down". Giri has been trying to close a loophole that allows a Hindu man to have more than one wife by simply converting.

"There is a law now that all marriages should be registered, regardless of religion. However, that is not being properly implemented. While we know of only high-profile cases like that of a married Raj Babbar tying the knot with Smita Patil, there are scores of ordinary women who have been abandoned by their husbands who have misused Islam," she says.

Akhtar says the only change is that "women are becoming more financially independent and aware of their rights".

She says forgotten first wives now "gather the courage to divorce their husbands or at least ask for maintenance if they remarry".

Change of a sort then. But not enough.

SC: Marriage to be dissolved in presence of both spouses

SC: Marriage to be dissolved in presence of both spouses
6/19/2009
The Supreme Court has ruled that a court does not have jurisdiction to dissolve a marriage by mutual consent under Section 13B of the Hindu Marriage Act, unless and until both the spouses are present in the court and give their consent for dissolution of marriage at the time of granting divorce.

A three-judge bench comprising Chief Jusice K G Balakrishnan and Justices P Sathasivam and Asok Kumar Ganguly allowed the appeal of Smruti Pahariya, the wife, who had challenged a Bombay High Court order dated June 5, 2008 which had set aside the order of the Family Court, Mumbai that had granted divorce on December 5, 2007 to the estranged couple without either of them being present in the court.

Justice Ganguly, speaking for the bench in a 31-page judgment, noted, ' In our view, it is only the mutual consent of the parties which gives the court the jurisdiction to pass a decree for divorce under Section 13B..

So in cases under the said Section , mutual consent of the parties is a jurisdictional fact. The court while passing its decree under Section 13 B would be slow and circumspect before it can infer the existence of such jurisdictional fact,' he added.

The court has to be satisfied about the existence of mutual consent between the parties on some tangible material which demonstrably discloses such consent.

' We are of the view that it is only with the continued mutual consent of the parties that decree for divorce under Section 13B of the said Act can be passed by the court.' If petition for divorce is not formally withdrawn, and is kept pending, then on the date when the court grants the decree , the court has a statutory obligation to hear the parties to ascertain their consent.

From the absence of one of the parties, for two or three days, the court can not presume his/her consent as has been done by the learned Family Court judge in the instant case,' he added.

Smruti and Sanjay were married on March 5, 1993 in Mumbai according to the Hindu rites and were blessed with two sons.

However, strains developed between both of them, which led to their separation in January 2005. The parties then decided to seek divorce by mutual consent to end the relationship which had become an unbearable burden for them..

The apex court directed the Family Court to issue notice to both the parties to appear in person before the court on a particular day and seek their consent.

In case, however, either of the parties refuse to give consent for divorce, the court may dispose of the proceedings in the light of the observations made by the apex court. If the parties agree for divorce by mutual consent, the court may pass an appropriate order.

Wife beats man for not buying a bigger home

Mumbai : Video grabs of the clip the victim shot while he was
allegedly being beaten up by his wife for failing to purchase a flat.
The last grab shows an injury he suffered due to the beatings

A man who has accused his wife of domestic violence shot a video of
her wife beating him with a broom to be presented as evidence.

The man, who is a driver with Thane Municipal Transport, had got
married to the girl in December 2002. Soon after the marriage, his
wife started complaining about living in a joint family. In 2004, she
even left the house and went to her village in Dhule district. The
worried husband asked a few relatives to intervene and met his wife's
family.

The girl agreed to return on the condition that he purchased a new
flat where they would live separately. The man somehow raised some
money and managed to purchase a tenement in a chawl at Vartak Nagar in
Thane. However, the wife still refused to return, this time
complaining about her husband's poor financial condition.

But, in due course, he persuaded her to return.

The man said, "But her demands for jewellery, furniture and clothes
went on increasing with each year. She used to pick up fights and
threaten to leave if I failed to fulfil her wishes. To earn more
money, I started driving an auto after my duty hours."

But the wife was adamant about living in a multi-storey building.
Recently, the man alleged, she began beating him for not fulfilling
his promise.

Thrice in the past few months, the couple's fights became so heated
that they ended up in Vartak Nagar police station where they
registered non-cognisable complaints against each other.

The victim and his wife on their wedding day

Last week, when the woman began beating the husband with a broom, he
captured the scene in his mobile phone's camera. He handed over the
clip to the police to back his complaint.

The man said, "Despite our fights, I prefer to live with my wife, as
we have a five-year-old daughter. When women face such problems, they
usually approach NGOs. Hence, I thought of approaching them to save my
marriage."

But volunteers of `Madat Seva Sanstha', the NGO he approached, were
taken aback with his case. Shashi Agrawal, who heads the NGO, said,
"We help women who are victims of domestic violence or dowry. But,
this case is unique and we need to adopt a different approach to
resolve the problem. We don't have any solution yet."

But she has called the families of the couple for meeting to discuss
their differences

Despite our fights, I prefer to live with my wife, as we have a
5-year-old girl. When women face such problems, they usually approach
NGOs. Hence, I thought of approaching them to save my marriage - The
victim

Source : http://www.mumbaimirror.com/index.aspx?Page=article&sectname=News%20-%20City&sectid=2&contentid=2009062020090620042444413edc4a81

2 month old baby had to get AB - Mid Day

Baby got bail
By: Kranti Vibhute Date: 2009-06-21 Place:Mumbai

Two-month-old Zoya gets dragged into a dowry harassment case filed by
her father's first wife. Legal experts, child rights activists react
in shock at her having to get anticipatory bail to avoid arrest

In a case straight out of Ripley's Believe It Or Not, the Mumbai
Sessions court last Wednesday (June 17, 2009) granted anticipatory
bail for what must have been their youngest applicant ever a
two-month-old baby: Zoya aka Mehak Shamshuddin Khan. Lucky for her, or
Zoya could have ended up behind bars.

Mother Reshma Khan of two-month-old baby Zoya said the family was
called for an inquiry to Nehru Nagar police station. She sat there
with the baby in her arms for 10 hours without reprieve, from 1 pm
till 10 pm. She even had to feed her baby in front of the police and
visitors

Zoya, who has got bail on a surety amount of Rs 10,000, is a member of
the Khan family from Kurla who have been accused by Shakila Khan (27)
in a dowry harassment case and for a criminal breach of trust. The
sessions judge S N Sardesai in his order granted bail for seven of the
eight applicants who applied for the anticipatory bail.

Shakila lodged a complaint against Zoya's father and her divorced
spouse Shamsuddin Khan at the Nehru Nagar police station and named the
entire family in her letter, including Zoya, her biological mother
(Shamsuddin's second wife), a neighbour and four relatives. Shakila
accused them of harassing and demanding dowry of Rs one lakh and
torturing her, the police said.

Khan's lawyers Anil Bhole and Lata Vhotkar said the police initially
thought that the matter would be resolved between both parties
amicably. "However, when Shakila submitted a complaint letter against
Shamsuddin and his family in which his second wife Reshma's baby was
also mentioned, he had to rush for anticipatory bail for all his
family members," said Bhole.

The police registered the case on Wednesday evening against Khan and
his family members, acting on Shakila's complaint letter submitted
earlier.

"Shakila and Shamsuddin divorced two years ago and he has since
remarried and had Zoya with his second wife," said Nasim Bano Khan,
Shamsuddin's mother. The entire family, apart from Shamsuddin, was
summoned to the Nehru Nagar police station on Friday for questioning.
"We were at the police station from 1 pm to 10 pm. Who would have
looked after my baby while we were being questioned by the policemen?
Our baby is so small, so I have to still bring her along every time,"
said a distraught Reshma.

'It's unheard of. The people who mentioned the baby in the complaint
must be crazy!'
Ram Jethmalani, senior criminal lawyer

'This is hilarious and unheard of.'
Rohini Salian, ex-chief public prosecutor

'I can't believe my ears, it's bizarre!'
Mohammed Afzal, activist

'It's amazing that such an order could be passed for a baby.'
Girija Vyas, chairperson, National Commission for Women

'I can't believe my ears'

Zoya's case has stirred up a strong response. Former law minister and
senior counsel Ram Jethmalani said that it was the most ridiculous
thing he had ever heard of. "It's probably unheard of even in any
other part of the world where a two-month-old baby has to apply for
bail. The people who mentioned the baby in the complaint must be
crazy!" Similar sentiments were echoed by former senior counsel Rohini
Salian, "This is a hilarious and unheard-of episode," she said.

Others were more cutting. Criminal lawyer Dinesh Tiwari said that
apart from being an unprecedented case, it was a failure on the part
of the police and the judicial process. "There should have been some
verification of the applicant. How can a complaint letter naming a
two-month-old baby be blindly considered in this manner?" asked
Tiwari. Consumer activist Mohammed Afzal said the case highlighted the
need for proper judicial guidelines. "I can't believe my ears, it's
absolutely bizarre," he said.

Others chalked it up to the lack of awareness. "It's really a laughing
matter, but it highlights the ignorance that exists amongst the police
and judicial force. It's amazing that such an order could be passed
for a baby," said Dr Girija Vyas, chairperson, National Commission for
Women.

"The commission will look into this particular case to give us
insights into the issues of child jurisprudence, which we are
currently examining," said Dr Shanta Sinha, chairperson, National
Commission for Protection of Child Rights (NCPCR).

Sociologist Nandini Sardesai said that the move was probably an
attempt on the victim's part to get her case noticed.

"To begin with, it's strange that dowry is an issue in a Muslim
family, but it reflects the pernicious carryover of a Hindu custom to
other communities for their own benefit. Cases of dowry harassment
often go unnoticed and this inclusion of the baby was probably to gain
some attention and to sensationalise her case.

As for the police, it's no surprise that they often don't know the
legalities since they're either apathetic or ignorant."

The case so far
Police have filed a case against Shamshuddin Khan (divorced husband of
Shakila), his second wife, daughter, mother, brother, two sisters and
one neighbour for dowry harassment (section 498), criminal breach of
trust (section 406) and acts done by several persons in furtherance of
common intention (section 34). Shamsuddin's bail application was
rejected and he was arrested by the Nehru Nagar police station on
Saturday.

Children faultless until seven
"The child is presumed to be innocent until the age of seven and it's
presumed that until then the child does not understand the difference
between good or bad, crime or no crime and there is no Mensrea
(intention to commit an offence is absent). Thus the child cannot be
punished nor can any case be registered against it. Once the child is
seven or above, he is a juvenile and can be tried under the Juvenile
Offenders Act by the juvenile courts. In this case since the baby in
question is only two months, there is no need for seeking anticipatory
bail, nor for the court to grant such bail," explains ex-mayor of
Mumbai and advocate Nirmala Samant Prabhavalkar.

For nearly nine hours, Zoya was in her mother's arms while police
officials made inquires on Friday. "It was embarrassing to feed my
baby in front of the police and while other visitors moved around us.
While my statement was being recorded, Zoya continuously cried. That
irritated the policemen, but they didn't understand how hard it was
for me to take care of my two-month-baby and answer their questions,"
said Reshma.

When Prakash Kale, senior police inspector of Nehru Nagar station, was
asked why the baby was dragged into the matter, he rubbished the
claim, saying, "No complaint has been filed against the baby, but
since her name was mentioned by the complainant (Shakila) in her
letter, the entire family applied for anticipatory bail."

Source :http://www.mid-day.com/news/2009/jun/210609-Zoya-two-month-old-girl-anticipatory-bail-dowry-harrassment-case-youngest-accused-Mumbai-news.htm

Russian woman rapes 10 men

*Melbourne: * A young Russian woman, nicknamed the Black Widow for her
collection of spiders, is on trial after being accused of sedating and
raping 10 men.

According to Life.ru, Valeria K., 32, a quiet good-looking woman from the
city of Tambov, shocked police when they discovered that she was the
mysterious rapist who abused 10 local men after poisoning them with
clonidine.

Valeria would get acquainted with the men and invite them to her place,
where she would give them drinks mixed with the poison, causing them to fall
asleep for almost 24 hours.

Once her victims were sedated, she would undress them and then rape them,
tightening a rope on their male organs to keep them erect.

The men would wake up in the hospital with clonidine poisoning and penis
trauma, and remember only a friendly brunette who had given them drinks.

When the police finally identified her, she was placed under arrest, but
they presently know of only the ten victims, with one refusing to file a
complaint against her.

"It was great," the Daily Telegraph quoted the unnamed man as saying. "I
like hot women. I only wish she hadn't use the clonidine on me," he added.

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'Deprived dads' to rally for parenting rights

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/Deprived-dads-to-rally-in-Bangalore/articleshow/4675713.cms

BANGALORE: Many Bangalore men who are separated from their wives but
pine for their children are set to mark Father's Day (June 21) by
taking out a rally here. Kids should get the love of both parents,
they stress.

Saturday's rally will see these men asserting their right to be in
touch with their children.

It is the brainchild of Children's Rights Initiative For Shared
Parenting (CRISP), a city-based NGO fighting for shared parenting
rights, in association with Save the Indian Family Foundation (SIFF).

"Not every child is lucky enough to have the love and care of both
father and mother, even when both the parents are alive during their
growing up days. Due to a rise in divorce cases in the country, most
children of separated parents are deprived of both their parents'
affection," Kumar Jahgirdar, president of CRISP, said.

"On the occasion of Father's Day, CRISP members will have a rally in
the morning -- near Mahatma Gandhi statue at MG Road -- to create
awareness on the importance of the father in the life of a child,"
added Kumar.

He himself has been battling for the custody of his daughter for
almost a decade.

Formed in May 2008 in Bangalore, CRISP today has 1,000 members across
the country. On Saturday, around 500 members of CRISP are likely to
take part in the rally.

Explaining on CRISP's work, the president said, the organisation has
fathers, mothers and grandparents as its members.

"I want to clarify one thing. The members are not only fathers who are
fighting for the rights of their children's custody. We have both
fathers, mothers and grandparents, who are fighting for justice and
equality in child custody laws of our country and who believe in
shared parenting when the parents are either separated or divorced,"
said Kumar.

"The idea of our organisation is to give every child their right to be
raised equally by both parents, to get an equal amount of love and
affection from both parents," he said.

According to the figures available with CRISP, around 13,000 cases of
divorce are pending in various family courts in Bangalore.

"In the process of parents getting divorced, it is ultimately the
children who suffer the most. Thus we want equal rights for both the
parents over their children," said Lokesh Reddy, a member of CRISP.

"We want a change in Indian family law which in most cases is tilted
towards the mother when it comes to a child's custody," he added.

According to CRISP, parents contemplating divorce should be given
mandatory counselling on "shared parenting" and its benefits by a
panel of experts supervised by the family courts.

"This will eliminate unnecessary child custody battles, stress to the
parents and children and waste of the precious time of the courts,"
said Jayant, another member of CRISP.

"It is always better to have the care and love of both mother and
father while growing up. I too support the concept of shared
parenting. Differences between parents should not affect children in
their growing up days," said Sharada Patil, a Bangalore-based teacher.

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When she cries rape...

The questions being asked in Mumbai, in Bollywood, are not whether actor Shiney Ahuja did, as was reported, rape his 18-year-old domestic maid or

Shiney Ahuja

had, as is suspected, consensual sex with her. The questions being asked are what happens to the man in such a case?

How do the police distinguish between what was rape and consensual sex? Is it just the woman's word against the man's? What if she is lying? Or out to exploit and blackmail the man? Trap him into marrying her after what was just an affair but mutual agreement? And... further, what happens next? What is the sentence for rape? And can there be one for consensual sex between adults? Also, if (as in Shiney's case) the man happens to be married and had consensual sex, is he only guilty of adultery? And if he is married and has committed rape, what kind of sentence does he face for the crime? Most Indian laws, framed during the colonial days of the British Raj, remain as grey as ever with prosecuting authorities struggling to get convictions while defence lawyers pick holes in the chargesheet. Even while the police muddle their way through the many 'rape' cases in their files, BT posed these questions to criminal law experts.

Can consensual sex be easily proved?
"In the case of rape, the evidence of the victim is enough," says lawyer Satish Maneshinde. "Proving it wasn't rape but consensual sex, is very difficult." If there are no signs of aggression on the victim, it could indicate consensual sex, but that's not sufficient as evidence. "To prove consensual sex, there should be evidence in the form of SMSes or telephonic calls which show there was an involvement. Even if the victim is known to be a prostitute or a condom was used, yet it's not accepted as consensual sex," says Maneshinde adding, "Where the victim is from a weak social and economical background or there's an employer-employee angle, the tilt is always towards the victim."

What amounts to rape?
According to Section 375 of the IPC, a man is said to commit "rape" when he has sexual intercourse with a woman... 1) Against her will 2) Without her consent 3) If her consent was obtained by putting her or any person she's interested in under fear of death or of hurt 4) With her consent, when the man knows that he is not her husband, but she believes that he is the man she is lawfully married to 5) If consent was given under intoxication or unsound mind.
But change is the need of the hour. Lawyer Shrikant Bhat makes a point: "This section was drafted between 1833 to 1837. Times have changed, physiology hasn't changed. So what requires to be changed is the interpretation. The word 'consent' or 'against her will' has to be interpreted such that one question is asked — whether the girl had the sexual desire during the period of physical intimacy (not necessarily intercourse). Lubrication of vagina would be one of the indications of sexual desire which medically can be found out. If the girl had a sexual desire then it's not rape."

Minor versus adult?
If the victim is a minor, then there's no question of consent; it amounts to rape in any case, according to the IPC. When the victim is less than 16, it doesn't matter whether the sexual act was carried out mutually or if the perpetrator and the victim were involved at one point.

What about adultery?
Whether it's rape or consensual sex, what about adultery if the person is married? "Generally our system doesn't take serious cognisance of adulterous activity. That's because the aggrieved party, which is the wife, has not complained," explains lawyer Majeed Memon. "There are two different aspects that come to the fore in the Shiney Ahuja case — 1) The exploitation of maids or aspiring actresses 2) You cannot rule out a conspiracy to falsely implicate a celebrity."

Are men at a disadvantage in our system?
In matters of rape, men are always at a disadvantage in our system, feel experts. "That's because they are considered the more aggressive of the two sexes," says Maneshinde.

Bhat adds, "Section 114 A of the Evidence Act says, 'If she states in her evidence before the court that she did not consent, the court shall presume that she did not consent.' An innocent man will be convicted on this presumption. Also, the previous sexual conduct of the girl cannot be brought on record in the inquiry or cross examination under the same Act."

source : http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Potpourri/When-she-cries-rape/articleshow/4658865.cms

Who eNcash with Indian men Problems

Everyone knows Indian husbands who are tormented by unscrupulous women
misusing grossly antimen laws like Sec. 498A of IPC, DV Act, Sec 125
CrPC etc.It is not only setting right the gross injustice being done
in the matters of matrimonial conflicts towards men by providing
custody of children only to women, with total disregard of the love
and affection the father and children have towards each other.
Fathers are denied custody as a rule rather than an exception. If at
all visitation is ordered to the fathers, it is limited to 30 min and
1 hour in a month contrary to the requirement of UN resolution that no
Child should be denied access to either of the parents.Cases linger on
for indefinite periods with wives enjoying at the cost of husbands by
way of interim maintenance, which is unfair since men are made to bear
the perpetual cross for women's irresponsible behaviour. Even Father
will not get custody even child wanted to be with him. it is not only
gross violation of Personal and human rights of Father as well as
Child.
On a simple complaint by a wife that she is being tortured for dowry,
husbands and their aged parents are being arrested without even an
iota of inquiry about the veracity of the complaint.
Is the assumption of the police and judiciary that all men are
criminals ? Even sisters of the husbands along with their tiny tot
children are arrested with impunity, simply because the wife has
listed her names in the complaint. We request the Hon. Chief Justice
to put an end to this unfair practice. Law think All wimen are victims
and men are villain.

During the years 2005 and 2006, 52,483 and 55,452 married men have
committed suicide as against 28,188 and 29,869 married women. One of
the chief causes of such high suicide rate is the trauma that the
husbands udergo in the hands of unscrupulous women who attack them
with spurious dowry torture complaints.
The infamous "Sec. 498A of IPC" comes in handy for them to torture the
husbands and their families.
In order to save the lives of poor husbands, the Hon. Chief Justice
may pass such orders that divorce is ordered automatically if 498A
complaint is lodged by the wife, in keeping with the natural logic
that no family life is possible with husband and in-laws after a
complaint of such serious nature is proffered against them.
Judicial dispensation in the matters of ordering maintenance and
alimony is totally biased against the husbands. When everyone talks
about the rights of wives on husbands, no order is passed on the
responsibilities of wives towards the husbands and in-laws, let alone
the rights of husbands over wives. Why should the husbands be turned
into "Free ATM machines" for the wives to enjoy life without work or
any responsibility? What does the husband get in return for doling
away his hard-earned money to a wife who ran away from her matrimony
and its attendant responsibilities? We request Hon. Chief Justice to
ponder over these issues and create a congenial atmosphere in the
society for the men to live in peace and not dreading the onslaught of
gender-biased laws that may take the toll of his life.
The laws that men have to provide for wives, even if she is estranged,
was formed when the men alone were the sole breadwinners of the family
and women were mere home makers. But the present situation has
undergone a sea-change, such that women are equally qualified if not
better compared to men. In fact the number of girls admitted to the
medical colleges in Tamil Nadu is more than the number of boys. There
are many vocations where women outnumber men and there are many such
jobs such as call centers which employ 100% women. Besides, many women
employees earn more than men of comparable qualifications in BPOs and
software companies. Under the circumstances, we implore Hon. Chief
Justice to reflect as to whether it is still fair to make the husbands
bear the burden of maintenance and alimony for the wife when she is
not living with him, for whatever reason.
More than 98% of men have faced Domestic Violence at some point of
time in their lives at the hands of their wives and in-laws in terms
of verbal abuse, physical abuse, economical abuse, cheating,
infidelity and mental harassment on an average in the first 3 years of
marriage. But here is no law to provide solace to men.
Relationship discords are misclassified as Violence, Crime, Cruelty
etc., but women are exempted from punishment while men are mercilessly
sent to jail without evidence and on Ex parte orders.
An offence must be treated as an offence be it committed by Man or
Women. Exempting women from punishment for crimes committed by them is
against the purport of Article 15(3) of our Constitution
The prevailing biased anti-men laws of India encourage unscrupulous
women to raise false allegations against men like dowry harassment,
sexual harassment, relationship cheating or any other form of social
abuse. It has become a fashion for society women, women-centric NGOs,
feminists and biased media in India support and pamper unscrupulous
women to indulge in vexatious litigation to traumatize husbands and
their parents and extort huge ransom from them.
All the available gender neutral laws under IPC have a clause of
punishment for abusers of those laws, whereas there is no such clause
in any of the women-centric laws viz: 468A, DV Act etc, which is a
clear violation of the article 14 of the Indian Constitution and
blatant discrimination against the male gender.
At present, Indian law considers Adultery as a crime when committed by
Indian men but not so when committed by women, which also betrays a
diabolical discrimination against men.
By this brazenly anti-male mindset of the law, judiciary and the
rulers, men of India have started to feel that it is fundamentally a
crime to be born a male in India.
At this juncture, we wish to bring to the notice of Hon. Chief Justice
that such anti-men mindset and continual onslaught on men will
demolish the faith of young men on the system of marriage and the
societal values as a whole. An young man with lofty ideals about
marriage and conjugal life will disheartened by the abject anti-men
bias that pervades the society which gets reflected in the judicial
dispensations. The result may be that he will be driven to suicide or
he will shun marriage altogether paving the way for a fatherless
society full of single parents in future.
Whenever a married woman dies due to any reason - be it accident,
illness or suicide for any reason unknown, it is escalated into the
realm of dowry death and the husband is immediately arrested. But
large scale suicides by men owing to domestic violence perpetrated on
them are not even getting noticed let alone imparting justice to them.
At present, Indian law considers Adultery as a crime when committed by
Indian men but not so when committed by women, which also betrays a
diabolical discrimination against men.
By this brazenly anti-male mindset of the law, judiciary and the
rulers, men of India have started to feel that it is fundamentally a
crime to be born a male in India.
REMEDIES :
1. Disposal of Cases:
The High Court shall ensure that all matrimonial cases be disposed
within a period of one year by the Family Courts.
The High Court to officially state that no new cases to be taken till
the old ones are disposed;

The High Court shall make it mandatory before admitting the case for
enquiry that pre-trial mediation under the provisions of Arbitration
and Conciliation act 1996 within a fixed time frame on a daily basis;

The High Court shall suo moto transfer all long-pending ( one year and
above) cases to the City Civil Courts to dispose of within a time
limit.
2. Reforms in Mediation Counseling and Pleadings Banning the presence
& pleadings by Advocates in the family Court and Mediation
The High Court shall nominate NGOs', retired social welfare officers
as counselors and mediators. They shall be adequately compensated
fixing a rate of at least Rs20000/= per case payable by the spouses
equally.
The High Courts shall ensure that mediators are given exclusive powers
to decide on dates, adjournments and mandate them to dispose
mediations & counseling quickly, without holidays.
The High Court shall frame rules for conduct of family courts as
recommended by NCW with appropriate modifications.
The resolutions passed by the Chief-Ministers & Chief-Justice
conference shall be implemented in its true sprit.
The High Court shall ensure that no in-camera and chambers proceedings
are held unless absolutely necessary.
The High Court shall ensure when a Husband is arrested at the instance
of the wife on 498A case, automatic divorce to be granted on
application of divorce by either of the spouse.
3. Child Custody matters:
The High Court shall ensure that equal custody of children are given
to both spouses irrespective of allegations of mother be adulterous or
father being a drunkard.
The practice of child being shown a la TV episode to a father without
providing an opportunity to show his fatherly care and affection, is
to be discouraged.
We strongly deprecate the attitude of the courts which consider the
children as the exclusive property of the wife and totally deny access
to the Husband and his Family while passing interim and final orders.
We strongly deprecate the basic philosophy of the Family Courts that
Husband alone is bound to earn and maintain the wife and children,
even though the wife is either earning or sufficiently qualified to
earn. The practice of passing orders for monetary compensation alone,
instead of directly ordering medical, insurance and school-fee
payment, purchase of clothes etc., for the children is also considered
highly irregular, in view of the fact that there is no guarantee that
cash given for such purposes really reach the children to fulfill
their basic needs.
4. Interim Orders
The High Court shall ensure that interim orders are passed at the
earliest and at the discretion of the officers in respect to
maintenance and custody.
The High Court shall ensure the trial is not withheld over an
indefinite period due to non-execution of interim orders.
5. Perjury
The High Court shall order perjury and contempt proceedings in respect
of exaggerated or false allegation in respect of employment, earning
and cruelty when such allegations are proved to be false. And spouses
making false allegations are to be punished.
Above said Remedies will not violate anyone human / Personal rights,
it gives equal oppertunity to all Citizens of the country, but Indian
Judiciary / Government Turn Blind Eye on such Changes.
Because for Lawyers,Police Judges,Feminists and women organizations
its a Money making Oppertunity.
For government its a Election issue and encash Vote with women issues.

RAJESH VAKHARIA

SAVE INDIAN FAMILY FOUNDATION
NAGPUR..
MO.NO. 98909 74788

Court quashes dowry cases affecting kids

Children come before marital troubles — that was the line taken by the
Delhi high court in its handling of two lawsuits recently. Taking the
view that children should not be caught in the crossfire between
squabbling parents, the court, while deciding on the lawsuits, ruled
that criminal cases filed by a woman against her husband, alleging
cruelty over dowry and such offences, could be quashed.

If an accused is charged with offences under the Indian Penal Code
(IPC), he or she cannot reach an out-of-court settlement, nor can the
complaint be withdrawn. However, the court held that cases of dowry
harassment or refusal to return gifts and other belongings of the wife
(streedhan), though they fall under the ambit of the IPC, could be
scrapped keeping in mind the couple's children.

In the first instance, the court quashed an FIR filed under section
498A (husband or relative of the husband subjecting a woman to
cruelty) and 406 (criminal breach of trust) of the IPC against a
husband because the litigating couple had reconciled and started
living "happily" with their children. "It is just and proper in the
interest of justice as well as the society and the family that
investigation in the case, consequent to the filing of the chargesheet
and trial, is not allowed to proceed,'' held justice Aruna Suresh.

The judge said that if investigation and trial were allowed to
continue, "it is likely to generate ill-will, disharmony and
misunderstanding between both parties, which will adversely affect
their matrimonial life as well as the children, who will be deprived
of love and affection of their parents".

In the other case, too, the husband had been charged under sections
498 and 406 of the IPC. He agreed to pay Rs7.50 lakh to his wife
towards settlement and for the upkeep of their 10-year-old son.
However, the man was not willing to meet his son, saying his wife had
left her matrimonial home five years ago. Noting the inordinate delay
in disposing of cases related to family disputes, justice Suresh
quashed the FIR filed by the wife.

Terming the husband's unwillingness to meet his son "unfortunate",
justice Suresh expressed the hope that "with the lapse of time, good
sense prevails on him and he decides to meet the child''.

Source : http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_court-quashes-dowry-cases-affecting-kids_1265261

Man attempts suicide demanding action against estranged wife

Rajkot : Nearly 10 days after a centenarian and his 60-member Thummar
family staged a dharna to protest against the alleged harassment by
their estranged daughter-in-law, the woman's husband on Tuesday
attempted suicide in Rajkot in public demanding action against his
wife.
The Thummar family has also given a 24-hour ultimatum demanding action
against Rekha, the wife of Shanitlal who attempted suicide on Tuesday.

"If no action is taken by the administration in 24-hours, we all will
commit suicide," said Suresh, Shantilal's nephew.

While 105-year-old Arjan Thummar has been on strike since June 7,
other family members have also joined him outside their residence at
Mahudi.

Shantilal was rushed to Rajkot Civil Hospital on Tuesday afternoon,
minutes after he drank some poison from a bottle. Shantilal's action
was his response to a question asked by media about his future course
of action.

Rekha (28), who married Shantilal in 1996, has filed five police cases
under various sections against various family members alleging mental
and physical harassment.

These cases have been registered with different police stations
including Junagadh, Dhoraji, Jamkandorna, Jetpur and Jamnagar. All
these cases have been registered between 1999 and 2004.

Citing these cases, the family alleges they have been harassed by
police and lawyers with whom Rekha shares good relation.

On the other hand, Rekha, who has been receiving alimony to the tune
of Rs 3,500 per month from Shantilal for five years now, has alleged
that all her belongings which were given to her by her parents at the
time of marriage are still with her in-laws and she has been fighting
to get them back.

Rekha and Shantilal have two children, a son (5) and a daughter (7).

Both the children in the custody of Shantilal. The family lives in a
700-square feet mansion on Mahudi road.

sources : http://www.indianexpress.com/news/man-attempts-suicide-demanding-action-against-estranged-wife/477713/

Unfaithful wife can be jailed if man ends life

Publication: Times of India Mumbai; Date: Jun 13, 2009; Section: Times
Nation; Page: 12

Unfaithful wife can be jailed if man ends life
==============================================

New Delhi: If a man kills himself because his wife is involved in an
illicit relationship, then the woman and her paramour could be
convicted for abetting the suicide, the Supreme Court has ruled.

A bench of justices Mukundakam Sharma and B S Chauhan rejected the
argument of a convict, Dammu Sreenu, that section 306 (abetment to
suicide) cannot be applied against him and the victim's wife. Bitra
Nagarjuna Rao of Andhra hanged himself on January 8, 1996, after
telling his brother he was committing suicide as he was humiliated by
his wife's affair with Sreenu.

On the basis of the deposition made by the relatives, the sessions
court, Guntur, convicted and sentenced Sreenu and Rao's wife to five
years' imprisonment. The Andhra HC confirmed the sentence for Sreenu.
Aggrieved, Sreenu moved the SC. But the apex court rejected the
argument saying the evidence on record clearly indicated that Sreenu
and Rao's wife were having an affair, because of which Rao committed
suicide. AGENCIES

Easer to split - Very nice article which exposes mens issues in Divorces

Sagnik Mitra (name changed on request) defied his parents to marry
Monalisa Roy. However, she dumped him within a few years, after
emptying out his bank account. Almost a year has passed since then and
Mitra wants a divorce but breaking his trust is not an acceptable
ground to file for divorce. He has to wait for another year before he
can seek divorce on grounds of desertion. "How I wish there was a law
to obtain a divorce immediately," he laments. "I feel helpless at
times. The marriage is beyond repair but I can't file for divorce. And
I'm scared that my wife will slap a cruelty case against me anyday. If
only I could file for divorce immediately, life might be a little
better."

If recent recommendations made by the Law Commission of India are
accepted, Mitra's wish could come true. In its 217th report to the
Union minister for law and justice, the commission has "suggested that
immediate action be taken to introduce an amendment to the Hindu
Marriage Act, 1955, and the Special Marriage Act, 1954, for the
inclusion of `irretrievable breakdown of marriage' as another ground
for grant of divorce."

At present, Section 13 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, and Section 27
of the Special Marriage Act, 1954, provides grounds for seeking
divorce. "A couple can use irreconcilable differences as a ground to
seek divorce. But this clause is applicable only to divorce by mutual
consent, in accordance with Section 13 (b) of the Hindu Marriage Act,"
says Calcutta High Court advocate Jay Sengupta. To apply for divorce
under this clause, couples have to stay separately for at least a year
and state that they are seeking a divorce because they are unable to
cohabit. Sengupta goes on to explain the difference between
irreconcilable differences and irretrievable breakdown of marriage.
"As mentioned earlier, couples can cite irreconcilable differences if
seeking mutual divorce. The irretrievable breakdown of marriage clause
would be for a warring couple where one of the partners, for whatever
reasons, doesn't want a divorce."

The Supreme Court had in the Naveen Kohli vs Neelu Kohli (AIR 2006 SC
1675) case recommended that the Union of India consider amending the
Hindu Marriage Act, 1955. The commission suo motu took up the study of
the subject. It examined extant legislation as well as a number of
judgements of the Supreme Court and high courts on the subject and
concluded that "irretrievable breakdown of marriage" should be
incorporated as a ground for granting divorce under the provision of
the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, and the Special Marriage Act, 1954. The
recommendation also requests that the court examine whether adequate
financial arrangements have been made for the parties and children
before granting a decree for divorce on the ground that the marriage
has irretrievably broken down.

"This is not the first time that the Law Commission has made such a
recommendation," says Calcutta High Court advocate Protik Prokash
Banerji. "In fact, it had in the late Seventies recommended the
inclusion of the same ground in the Hindu Marriage Act. However, the
recommendation was not implemented." Will this recommendation meet the
same fate? "Perhaps not," says advocate Amjad Ali Sardar of the
Calcutta High Court. "In those days divorce was taboo. But a lot has
changed since then. Society is not the same nor are values. Today, the
inclusion of such a clause will have its merit. If a marriage is
already beyond repair, what is the necessity of keeping the tenuous
legal relationship intact?"

"According to my experience, it's best to sever a relationship if it
turns sour," says the Calcutta-based justice Malay Sengupta. "One
can't force a couple to stay together if one of the partners is not
keen on keeping the promises exchanged. I personally feel that with
changing times the divorce laws need to be modified. However, divorce
on this ground should be granted only if the couple has cohabited for
at least a year."

Most legal experts also feel that it is difficult to get a divorce by
proving grounds such as cruelty, desertion and others as mentioned in
the two acts. "It is easier to get a mutual divorce where both
partners want it. However, in most cases one of the partners contests
the divorce. The irretrievable breakdown of marriage clause will make
things easier in such cases. The procedure for seeking divorce under
this ground remains the same, but this becomes an additional ground.
This will be handy as it has been observed in many cases that a couple
is just incompatible but since that is no ground for divorce, certain
acts like cruelty, sodomy or mental abuse have to be proven and that
can be difficult," says Sardar.

Banerji, for one, does not believe in making it easier to get a
divorce. "With the Indian divorce laws being quite rigorous, the
divorce rate is quite low in our country. But once the recommendation
gets approved the divorce rate will soar for sure. The irretrievable
breakdown of marriage clause will make divorce easier, for then a
partner will be able to get a divorce even if the other refuses to
grant one."

Marriage therapists too feel that the implementation of this clause
would do more damage to the social fabric. Says Mumbai-based clinical
psychologist and marriage therapist Seema Hingorrany, "Getting such a
recommendation implemented would pave the way for an easy divorce. As
it is, divorce rates are on the upswing and people are seeking divorce
on flimsy grounds. This will just worsen the situation," she says.

"Accepting this recommendation might lead to an increase in divorce
rates," admits justice Sengupta. "But the amendment will be keeping in
sync with the changing times," he points out.

The inclusion of this clause might not push up divorce rates but it
will definitely make it a little easier for those who want to file for
divorce.

source : http://www.telegraphindia.com/1090610/jsp/opinion/story_11088399.jsp

Woman kills husband, stepson after man returns to first wife

Surat:

A women fatally beat her husband and stepson to death with the help of
her friends after the man returned to his first wife, on Monday
morning in the Pandesara area of Surat.

Rambabu Paswan was killed on the spot while his son Krunal died during
treatment at the New Civil Hospital on Tuesday afternoon.

The assault took place near the Akashbhumi Complex at Pandesara GIDC,
when Rambabu was on his way to drop Krunal to the nearby tuition class
on his motorcycle. His second wife Rekha alias Asha Tiwari (35)
arrived in an autorickshaw along with her friends and assaulted the
two with wooden sticks and baseball bats.

Passers-by rushed the two injured to the New Civil Hospital where
Rambabu was declared brought dead and Krunal was kept under
observation at the ICU as his condition was reported to be critical.

The police said Rambabu, a resident of Swaraj Society in Pandesara,
belonged to Uttar Pradesh. He lived with his wife Sunita and their
three children in Surat. He was doing different jobs. Nearly eight
years ago, he developed relations with Rekha, who also lived in
Pandesara.

They added that two years ago, after Rambabu learnt that Rekha's
husband Jagananth Tiwari, also a resident of Pandesara, had divorced
her on suspicion, he went back to Sunita.

Rambabu's first wife Sunita rushed to the hospital after learning
about the incident and lodged a complaint against Rekha and five
others. The police arrested Rekha, Dinesh Yadav, Vashisht Choudhary,
Avinash Choudhary, Dinesh Paswan and Chandan Tiwari, all residents of
Pandesara.

The police said Rekha was forcing Rambabu to break off his relations
with Sunita and the children.

The couple regularly quarrelled over this issue. Finally Rekha hatched
a plan to take revenge, and assaulted Rambabu and Krunal with the help
of her friends.

Pandesara Inspector A T Chauhan said: "Rekha told us during
interrogation that she had married Rambabu in a court in Uttar
Pradesh. We have arrested all the accused involved in the double
murder case."

source : http://www.indianexpress.com/news/woman-kills-husband-stepson-after-man-returns-to-first-wife/473946/2

Not quite for better, or worse

Not quite for better, or worse

Lawyers and counsellors believe that often a divorce is not the best course
of action

"I don't think it's working out", "we were never meant to be together",
"it's better we call it off": These are just some of the excuses couples
give these days as they annul their marriage. Divorce or dissolution of
marriage is one big step everyone's resorting to these days, be it after a
big fight, or over a trivial issue.
So what is it that's driving the city's couples to something as extreme as
divorce? "Everything has changed now. Women are earning and are financially
independent. There is an aspiration that was not present earlier. Women want
a certain kind of husband; a certain kind of behaviour. They've become very
choosy. They have their own set of expectations and when it's not fulfilled,
they decide to part ways," says Dr MJ Thomas, a psychiatrist.
They say marriage is work, a lot of work. Before marriage, it's like a
trailer, Dr Thomas feels. You marry someone with a lot of expectations. But
only when you get married do you realise that the movie is not as good as
the trailer.
Psychologists say that earlier, the age group filing for divorce was between
35 and 40. But now, couples in the age group of 20 to 30, and even older
people between the ages of 50 and 70 are heading down the road to
splitsville.
Earlier, men used to initiate a divorce, but now, women are opting to do so.
With the law changing, it has become easier for women to file for a divorce.

When a child's involved, however, the rules of the game can change. Lawyers
say that in most cases, mothers get custody as they are considered to be
capable and responsible enough to take care of a child, rather than a
father.
"Law doesn't favour either sex. The thing is, when it comes to women, there
are some additional grounds based on which, the decision is taken. But at
the end of the day, the evidence matters, and nothing else," says BT
Venkatesh, a lawyer. He adds that in the case of minors, the custody usually
goes to the mother, but later on, if the child is deemed capable, they can
decide which parent they want to live with.
Venkatesh also talks of three aspects of marriage: Restitution of Conjugal
Rights, Judicial Separation and Divorce. Whenever there is a strained
relationship and people seek the court's intervention, these are the three
aspects the court looks into. Talking of counselling, Venkatesh feels that
it is required at every level. "Conciliation proceedings are part of
matrimonial cases. It depends on the circumstances, as in many cases, people
seek divorce on frivolous grounds. So in such cases, the help of a
counsellor may do some good in making people realise that they needn't take
such a drastic step."
Ali Khwaja, a counselor, feels that if people believe in the saying
'prevention is better than cure' then they might as well go for pre-marital
counselling, as it helps. "Counselling is a fancy word, but a better
understanding before you tie that knot is a must. One should not wait for
the issue to become a problem."

source : http://epaper.dnaindia.com/dnabangalore/newsview.aspx?eddate=6/10/2009&pageno=7&edition=9&prntid=5715&bxid=27962420&pgno=7

Centenarian on hungerstrike against ‘harassment’ by granddaughter-in-law

This is a very unique way of Gandhigiri against "Legal Terrorist".

Centenarian on hungerstrike against 'harassment' by granddaughter-in-law
http://www.expressindia.com/latest-news/centenarian-on-hungerstrike-against-harassment-by-granddaughterinlaw/473405/

Express News Service Posted: Jun 09, 2009 at 0204 hrs

Rajkot In an incident that could give saas-bahu soaps a run for their
money, the 105-year-old patriarch of a Rajkot family is on a hunger
strike accusing his granddaughter-in-law of harassment. Some 60
members of his family are also with him.
The family's estranged daughter-in-law, they claim, has been harassing
them to no end and there was no other way to stop it. From
105-year-old Arjan Thummar to five-year-old Abhay, these 60-odd
members of the Thummar family have been staging their dharna in the
scorching heat outside their home in Mahudi gav for two days now. They
claim that Rekha (28), the daughter-in-law, has been a source of
constant harassment. Rekha, on her part, claims it is her husband's
family that has been mentally and physically harassing her.
Estranged for over a decade now, Arjan's son, Shantilal, says his wife
has been harassing his extended family, including his father, his five
brothers and their children.
Rekha had married Shantilal in 1996; and after the marriage collapsed,
she filed as many as five police complaints under different sections
against various members of her husband's family, alleging mental and
physical torture.
These cases were registered with police stations in different places
like Junagadh, Dhoraji, Jamkandorna, Jetpur and Jamnagar, between 1999
and 2004. The Thummars said they have been harassed by the police and
lawyers all these years as Rekha has a "good rapport" with the police.
The Thummars have submitted a memorandum to the Rajkot commissioner of
police. While the Malavyanagar police station has begun investigating
the complaint, the Thummars maintain that they want immediate action
against the policemen and lawyers, who, they claim are supporting
Rekha on "personal grounds". "The police keep trooping into our home
every now and then, harassing and even threatening the family,'' they
claimed. Arjan, who is on an indefinite fast, said, "I won't eat until
justice is done to us."
After their divorce, Rekha has been receiving Rs 3,500 as alimony
every month from Shantilal over the last five years. However, she
claims that her belongings are still with the former in-laws, which
she has been trying to get back.
Rekha and Shantilal have two children— a son (5) and a daughter (7)..
Both are in Shantilal's custody. "I pay alimony to her. I cannot
understand why she is doing this to us and what more does she want,"
said Shantilal.

दहेज प्रताड़ना में फंसाने पर जहर खाकर जान दी..

अलीगढ़। देहलीगेट इलाके के एक मेडिकल स्टोर संचालक ने रविवार रात सल्फास
की गोलियां निगल लीं। कुछ देर बाद परिजनों ने छटपटाते देखा तो माजरा
मालूम चला। हकबकाए परिजनों ने देहलीगेट पुलिस को फौरन खबर दी। घंटेभर तक
परिजन पुलिस के इंतजार में ही बैठे रहे। बाद में जुगाड़ करके उसे जेएन
मेडिकल कालेज ले गए। वहां डॉक्टरों ने मृत करार दिया। परिजनों का आरोप है
कि मृतक की पत्नी ने घर के सभी सदस्यों को दहेज प्रताड़ना के आरोप में
फंसा दिया है। उसी से आहत होकर युवक ने खुदकुशी कर ली। बड़े भाई ने मृतक
की बदायूं निवासी पत्नी, सास, ससुर और साले-साली के खिलाफ रिपोर्ट लिखाई
है।

मोरनी वाला पेच निवासी द्वारिका प्रसाद ने अपने छोटे बेटे तरुण की पिछले
साल 23 नवंबर को बदायूं निवासी प्राची उर्फ पारुल से शादी की थी। तरुण
यहां खैर रोड पर मेडिकल स्टोर चलाता था। आर्थिक स्थिति अच्छी होते हुए भी
मियां-बीवी के बीच अनबन होने लगी। बताते हैं कि पखवाड़ेभर पहले भी उनमें
झगड़ा हुआ था। तभी पारुल अपने मायके चली गई। तरुण घरेलू कलह से खासा
परेशान था। उधर, पारुल ने अपने पति, सास, ससुर समेत बाकी परिजनों पर दहेज
मांगने का आरोप लगाते हुए बदायूं में मुकदमा दर्ज करा दिया।

बड़े भाई तुषार अग्रवाल की मानें तो बदायूं से छह जून को एक दरोगाजी आए
थे। रिपोर्ट लिखने के बारे में उनसे ही सूचना मिली। तरुण को और भी आघात
लगा। रविवार रात तरुण ने सल्फास की कई गोलियां निगल लीं। उसकी अचानक जब
हालत बिगड़ी तो परिजनों को खबर लगी। भाई तुषार ने रात करीब साढ़े 10 बजे
देहलीगेट थाना पुलिस को घटना की सूचना दी। रात करीब डेढ़ बजे तुषार अपने
भाई को लेकर जेएन मेडिकल कालेज पहुंचा। यहां उसे मृत करार दिया गया।
तुषार ने बदायूं निवासी पारुल उर्फ प्राची, उसके पिता, मां, भाई व बहन के
खिलाफ देहलीगेट थाने में रिपोर्ट दर्ज कराई है। तुषार ने कहा है कि उसके
भाई ने इसलिए सुसाइड किया, क्योंकि उसकी पत्नी ने सभी के खिलाफ झूठा दहेज
प्रताड़ना का मुकदमा लिखा दिया था।

उधर, देहलीगेट थाने के एसआई विनोद कुमार ने बताया कि तरुण की जेब में एक
सुसाइड नोट निकला है। इसमें लिखा है कि पत्नी ने 12 लाख रुपये मांगने का
झूठा मुकदमा लिखाया है। इसमें मौत के लिए पत्नी के परिजनों को जिम्मेदार
ठहराया गया है।

Source : http://in.jagran.yahoo.com/news/local/uttarpradesh/4_1_5531220_1.html

Now, bride and kin in dock for dowry

NEW DELHI: In the first such order in the capital, a trial court has
asked the police to register an FIR against six members of a family,
including
the bride, for giving dowry to the groom's family.

There was trouble between Sunil and Latika (both names changed) just a
year after they got married on January 31, 2004. Latika left for her
maternal home on August 4, 2005 and filed a dowry harassment case
against Sunil and his family with ACP, anti-dowry cell. She alleged
that her family spent more than Rs 10 lakh on the marriage, and gave
Rs 2 lakh in cash for a car and another Rs 1.15 lakh as dowry. A case
was registered against Sunil and his family under Section 498(A), 406
and 34 of the IPC.

But Sunil also went to court, seeking registration of an FIR against
the girl and her family for fulfilling his dowry demands.

Citing the dowry prohibition Act which has a provision for punishment
for giving dowry, Sunil moved court in August 2008, seeking action
against his wife and in-laws under Section 156(3) CrPC as the police
was refusing to register the FIR against the girl's family for giving
dowry.

In the petition filed through his counsel Pradeep Nawani, he asked
that an FIR be registered against the girl and her family under
Section 3 of Dowry Prohibition Act, which is punishable upto five
years in jail with fine not less than Rs 15,000 or the amount of the
value of such dowry, whichever is more.

Counsel Nawani also relied on a high court judgment which stated that
the police should simultaneously register an FIR against the girl and
her family for giving dowry.

Metropolitan Magistrate Neeraj Gaur observed that giving dowry was a
cognisable offence and directed the station house officer (SHO) of
Model Town police station to register an FIR.

The court also asked the SHO to set an investigation into motion
against Latika and five other members of her family.

Source : http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/4626182.cms

Marriage is a knotty affair here

Bangalore: Twenty-five cases every day and 1,400 cases in six months. That's
IT's city track record on divorce.
Between January and June 2009, as many as 1,400 couples in the city have
decided they cannot live with each other and iled for divorce in family
courts. The trend is not new as 2008 saw 5,000 cases.
When the family court was set up in 1984 because divorce cases in civil
courts were taking too long, there were 800 pending cases. Today, family
court officials say there are an average 25 cases of matrimonial discord
being filed every day. While a mutual consent petition may be resolved in as
little as two months, cases are known to drag on for 5-6 years, and more, in
some cases.
*A TREND IN CITIES
*Filing of divorce by women is a big trend in cities and also gaining ground
in smaller towns. "Women are more prodivorce these days and there is very
little tolerance of bad behaviour by husbands,'' says Sheela Anish,
advocate, who is also on the board of The Indian Federation of Women
Lawyers. She attributes such sentiments to economic independence, lessening
social stigma and more awareness.
*7-YEAR ITCH IS PASSE
*There used to be a seven-year itch earlier, when it was said that it took
seven years into the marriage before the couple would become fully
compatible. "But not many are willing to wait that long to see whether they
are compatible or not,'' she says.
There is a huge shift in societal ideas too. "Women have changed a lot
over the last couple of generations. Men need to change too and become more
accommodative. With more women working, having successful careers and living
in a very cosmopolitan set up, acceptance of the idea of divorce has
increased,'' opine family court lawyers. Four family courts in city Average
25 cases filed every day Over 1,400 cases filed from Jan 2009 till date 2008
saw nearly 5,000 cases Average backlog could be 25-30 per cent *CASE
STUDIES:
A STUDY IN CONTRAST *
It cannot be called innocence. Or even ignorance for that matter. Maybe it
was a vague sense of acceptance that made Shalini Verma (name changed)
tolerate bestial behaviour towards her from her husband for two decades, to
the point that she even thought it was 'normal'. In return, there were the
riches and lavish luxuries; then came a decadent lifestyle. Help came from
thousands of miles away; from The Oprah Winfrey Show. The more episodes on
television she saw, the more Verma was convinced that there was something
very wrong with her life. And she walked out.
If that was a case of extreme tolerance, Vandana Deshpande's (name
changed) case was one of extreme intolerance.
She wanted a separation and a divorce from her husband the day they got
married, all because he was a diploma engineer and not a BE graduate as she
had been lead to believe. Mediation did not help change her mind and one
year on, both went their separate ways.
These are extremes. But such stories are alarmingly common these days,
says lawyer Sheela Anish.

Source : http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Default/Scripting/ArticleWin.asp?From=Archive&Source=Page&Skin=TOINEW&BaseHref=TOIBG%2F2009%2F06%2F08&ViewMode=GIF&GZ=T&PageLabel=2&EntityId=Ar00202&AppName=1

498A victim gangraped at police station

498A victim gangraped at police station

Source : http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/Dowry-accused-gangraped-by-Bhopal-cops-in-custody/articleshow/4622046.cms

Dowry accused gangraped by Bhopal cops in custody

BHOPAL: A 45-year-old woman, arrested on charges of dowry harassment,
was allegedly gangraped by four cops inside a police station in Betul
district, about 250 km from Bhopal.

Police said on Friday that the woman, from Jamwada villge, was
arrested and produced before a local court after her daughter-in-law
pressed dowry harassment charges against her on Tuesday. When the
court refused to grant her bail, she was taken back to the Amla police
station and in the same night, four policemen, including a head
constable, allegedly raped her.

DIG BB Sharma, who is leading the probe into the incident, told TOI
the inspector of the Amla police station was suspended and an FIR was
lodged against the four accused policemen, who were on duty that
night. But none of the accused was arrested till Friday evening. "We
are investigating the case. Action will be taken once we complete the
probe. The woman was sent for medical examination,'' Sharma said.

The daughter-in-law complained of dowry harassment in the last week of
May. Following the complaint, the woman was arrested on June 2 and was
produced in the court on the same day. On June 3, she was transferred
to the district jail where she told jail superintendent M S Baig that
she had been gang-raped by four policemen inside the Amla police
station. She lodged a written complaint to the jail authorities on
Wednesday evening after which the district police superintendent was
informed. A team of doctors conducted a medical examination of the
woman inside the jail.

The accused policemen, however, denied the rape charge, saying the
woman was levelling the charges to divert attention from the dowry
harassment case.

Hubby can't be usual suspect in dowry death ; SC

source : http://www.dnaindia.com/report.asp?newsid=1262380

New Delhi: The needle of suspicion does not necessarily point to
husband and in-laws if a woman dies within a year or so of marriage,
the Supreme Court (SC) has ruled. It cannot be treated as cruelty for
dowry and the in-laws cannot be convicted of causing dowry death, the
court said.

The judgment came on an appeal by Suresh Kumar Singh who was sentenced
to seven years by an UP court under IPC section 304-B (dowry death)
for causing the death of wife Asha Devi on December 8, 1993. The
Allahabad high court confirmed the sentence.
Asha's family alleged that Singh and his parents had harassed her
demanding gold ornaments a year ago and as such, they were to blame
for her death.

SC, however, said as the alleged demand for dowry was made over a year
prior to Asha's death, it could not be considered cruelty leading to
death.

"Harassment a year prior to the death without something more, in our
opinion, could not have been considered cruelty inflicted soon before
the death of the wife. It does not satisfy the proximity test,"
justices SB Sinha and Mukandakam Sharma held, negating the
prosecution's assertion that in case of death of a married woman
within seven years of marriage, husband and in-laws were liable to
face the dowry death charge.

To invite conviction under section 304-B, it is necessary that "soon
before her death", the woman must have been subjected to cruelty by
husband or his relatives in connection with dowry, SC said.

Dowry death not applicable if harassment is over a year: Supreme Court

Dowry death not applicable if harassment is over a year: Supreme Court

New Delhi (PTI) If a woman dies one year or so after an alleged harassment by husband and in-laws, it cannot be treated as a cruelty for dowry and the accused cannot be convicted for causing dowry death, the Supreme Court has ruled.

"Some harassment which had taken place one year prior to the death without something more, in our opinion, could not have been considered to be a cruelty which had been inflicted soon before the death of the deceased. It does not satisfy the proximity test," a bench of S B Sinha and Mukandakam Sharma ruled.

The apex court passed the ruling while setting aside the conviction of Suresh Kumar Singh under Section 304 B (dowry death) for causing the death of his wife Asha Devi on December 8, 1993, who died due to severe burn injuries.

In the present case, family members of the deceased had alleged that Asha was subjected to harassment by her husband and in-laws for gold ornaments a year before she died.

Singh was convicted under Section 304 B IPC(dowry death) and awarded a sentence of seven years by a sessions court in Uttar Pradesh which also convicted him under Section 498A IPC (harassment by husband/relatives) and sentenced him to three years for the offence. Both the sentences were to run concurently.

The Allahabad High Court confirmed the sentences, after which Singh appealed in the apex court.

Source : http://www.hindu.com/thehindu/holnus/001200906051810.htm

Family against Women or 21st century Women against family?

"Family against Women or 21st century Women against family?" "A year after the law to protect women from domestic violence was enacted, it continues to be defeated by social prejudice and blind spots." That is the comment none other than the great 21st century women of our country. In her Indian express article and king maker of making all the biased, anti-family law in this country, where the assumption that all the women born in Raja Harish Chandra family (Never lie) and all the men born in Criminal Family only. SC snubs Centre for domestic abuse Act DNA News. A small effort by Supreme Court of India Right to residence, maintenance only from husband: Court By Times of India. Last few Months all Indian Media (NDTV/CNN-IBN/IBN7/ZEE/India TV) started to justify that "Divorce is not a dirty word today", as in Delhi itself more than 9000 Divorce cases filed and more than 55% filed by Women only. Seems it was a dirty word till the time Men filed more Divorce cases, long back, but as now a days it is the women who are filling the Divorce cases more than man, so it should not be treated as "Dirty Word". But, they never disclose that, in each and every Divorce cases, it is the Husband who had been treated as a "Free ATM Machine" in front of Judge/Police/Media and more than 98% cases it is the wife's family demanded or taken huge money from the husbands family, let the marriage lasted for 15 days or 15 years. Wherever the husband refused to be treated as free ATM machine, by our great LAW like DV act and 498A, they termed as Criminal and open Legal terrorism start. In some cases the wife stay in USA/Dubai and send their Domestic Violence Complain through mail/post, whose Husbands are living in India and our Judges happily taken the same as acceptance, as any one can file the domestic violence against husband's family on behalf of a women, and immediately pass the interim order, that he should not go to media to say the truth, ask to deposited the Passport, interim maintenance in the range of 10K, 15k let her stay at USA or Dubai, it does not matter. The harassment does not end here, he have fight now three maintenance case for the same purpose along with DV act, section24, section125 (some time in three different state) and our Judges happily pass the judgments as per their view, without considering that it is the wastage of valuable time of Judiciary, for a same purpose three different case filed, where as millions of cases are awaiting for getting justice. Number of cases when the husbands got the child visiting right or child custody, immediately the Domestic Violence act came as gift and the creation of "father less child " society awarded and our media friends openly announced, a child reunited with mother, but forget to mention that a child became "father less". It is the another truth that her associates and our so called WCD minister openly says after passing the biased Domestic Violence Act: · It's turn to suffer the Indian men, as women suffered for long. (Like as Muslim Kings had destroyed a lot of temple, so let demolish the entire Mosque in India). · Don't trust Your Men, trust Condom, and in the name of reduce the AIDS. (Forget that the AIDS increased by multiple partner sex and condom used for multiple pattern sex, not for single pattern sex, which we term as married couple) · It's Diwaly Gift to Indian women. (With in two weeks, four women send behind the bar under first DV act case in Pune and one age old women left her own house as her daughter-in-law walk in her house with her all friends and parents) View Point: Domestic Violence Act lacks perspective By Zamir Uddin , Central Chronicle News. "In short, the DVA-2005 in its enthusiastic thoughtlessness has throttled all avenues of reconciliation, has weakened the foundations of the institution of marriage, and vitiated conjugal life by developing a false sense of ego and a fictional helplessness among women. When it comes to man-woman relationship let us listen to the traditional but sane voice of John Milton, the English poet and moralist. Milton says that man represents reason and woman passion. As long as reason dominates passion, there is cosmos, but the moment passion dominates reason, chaos ensues. Let us view marital life from this viewpoint for marriage is not a bed of roses but a domestic battlefield. Unless husband and wife bring immense goodwill and sacrifice to bear upon their marital fortunes, their situation is desperate. The DVA need to be replaced by some more benign, sensible, gender-neutral legislation that may ensure women their rightful, honorable place at home and abroad, at the same time not forgetting the rights of men." On the other hand our LAW maker forget to recognized Spouse abuse: It's the husband's turn now: DNA News,September 20, 2007 . "The study, conducted by two non-governmental organizations (NGOs) - Save Indian Family Foundation and My Nation - looked at four aspects of domestic violence — economical, emotional, physical and sexual. In a sample survey of 1,650 urban men, almost 98% of the respondents said they had suffered violence under one or the other of these heads more than once. Economical abuse was found to be the most common complaint with 32.8% saying they had faced it at least once in their married life, followed by emotional (22.2%), physical (25.2%) and sexual violence (19.8%). Nagging, grumbling, taunting, name calling, refusing food, denying sexual intercourse, abusing parents and family members, snatching salary, throwing objects, scratching with nails and biting, threats of suicide and even eviction from the house were some of the common forms of abuse mentioned. But perhaps the most serious was framing of false charges under the Indian Penal Code. " As a result while a large section of women, especially activists, are happy that the act has stood the test of time for a year, there are an equal number of people who feel that this act should be abolished. Rediff News: Delhi: Protest against Domestic Violence Act So after complete of First one year the question raised to the Lawmakers and they have to decide honestly, instead of in assumption that Domestic violence is only a gender issue and men do not face any domestic violence, where as crime Bure report says, more than 52K married men end their life after marriage vs. 28k married women end their life after marriage in 2005: "Family against Women or 21st century Women against family?" We have to wait and see to find the answer and for that your: Even an Animal has a Ministry and Welfare Division. Why not Men? An appeal to Indian Government to Form Ministry of Men's Well Fare

"Family against Women or 21st century Women against family?"

"Family against Women or 21st century Women against family?"

"A year after the law to protect women from domestic violence was enacted, it continues to be defeated by social prejudice and blind spots."

That is the comment none other than the great 21st century women of our country.

In her Indian express article and king maker of making all the biased, anti-family law in this country, where the assumption that all the women born in Raja Harish Chandra family (Never lie) and all the men born in Criminal Family only.

SC snubs Centre for domestic abuse Act DNA News.

A small effort by Supreme Court of India Right to residence, maintenance only from husband: Court By Times of India.

Last few Months all Indian Media (NDTV/CNN-IBN/IBN7/ZEE/India TV) started to justify that "Divorce is not a dirty word today", as in Delhi itself more than 9000 Divorce cases filed and more than 55% filed by Women only.

Seems it was a dirty word till the time Men filed more Divorce cases, long back, but as now a days it is the women who are filling the Divorce cases more than man, so it should not be treated as "Dirty Word".

But, they never disclose that, in each and every Divorce cases, it is the Husband who had been treated as a "Free ATM Machine" in front of Judge/Police/Media and more than 98% cases it is the wife's family demanded or taken huge money from the husbands family, let the marriage lasted for 15 days or 15 years.

Wherever the husband refused to be treated as free ATM machine, by our great LAW like DV act and 498A, they termed as Criminal and open Legal terrorism start. In some cases the wife stay in USA/Dubai and send their Domestic Violence Complain through mail/post, whose Husbands are living in India and our Judges happily taken the same as acceptance, as any one can file the domestic violence against husband's family on behalf of a women, and immediately pass the interim order, that he should not go to media to say the truth, ask to deposited the Passport, interim maintenance in the range of 10K, 15k let her stay at USA or Dubai, it does not matter.

The harassment does not end here, he have fight now three maintenance case for the same purpose along with DV act, section24, section125 (some time in three different state) and our Judges happily pass the judgments as per their view, without considering that it is the wastage of valuable time of Judiciary, for a same purpose three different case filed, where as millions of cases are awaiting for getting justice.

Number of cases when the husbands got the child visiting right or child custody, immediately the Domestic Violence act came as gift and the creation of "father less child " society awarded and our media friends openly announced, a child reunited with mother, but forget to mention that a child became "father less".

It is the another truth that her associates and our so called WCD minister openly says after passing the biased Domestic Violence Act:

· It's turn to suffer the Indian men, as women suffered for long. (Like as Muslim Kings had destroyed a lot of temple, so let demolish the entire Mosque in India).

· Don't trust Your Men, trust Condom, and in the name of reduce the AIDS. (Forget that the AIDS increased by multiple partner sex and condom used for multiple pattern sex, not for single pattern sex, which we term as married couple)· It's Diwaly Gift to Indian women. (With in two weeks, four women send behind the bar under first DV act case in Pune and one age old women left her own house as her daughter-in-law walk in her house with her all friends and parents)

View Point: Domestic Violence Act lacks perspective By Zamir Uddin , Central Chronicle News.

"In short, the DVA-2005 in its enthusiastic thoughtlessness has throttled all avenues of reconciliation, has weakened the foundations of the institution of marriage, and vitiated conjugal life by developing a false sense of ego and a fictional helplessness among women. When it comes to man-woman relationship let us listen to the traditional but sane voice of John Milton, the English poet and moralist. Milton says that man represents reason and woman passion. As long as reason dominates passion, there is cosmos, but the moment passion dominates reason, chaos ensues. Let us view marital life from this viewpoint for marriage is not a bed of roses but a domestic battlefield. Unless husband and wife bring immense goodwill and sacrifice to bear upon their marital fortunes, their situation is desperate. The DVA need to be replaced by some more benign, sensible, gender-neutral legislation that may ensure women their rightful, honorable place at home and abroad, at the same time not forgetting the rights of men."

On the other hand our LAW maker forget to recognized Spouse abuse: It's the husband's turn now: DNA News,September 20, 2007 .

"The study, conducted by two non-governmental organizations (NGOs) - Save Indian Family Foundation and My Nation - looked at four aspects of domestic violence — economical, emotional, physical and sexual. In a sample survey of 1,650 urban men, almost 98% of the respondents said they had suffered violence under one or the other of these heads more than once. Economical abuse was found to be the most common complaint with 32.8% saying they had faced it at least once in their married life, followed by emotional (22.2%), physical (25.2%) and sexual violence (19.8%). Nagging, grumbling, taunting, name calling, refusing food, denying sexual intercourse, abusing parents and family members, snatching salary, throwing objects, scratching with nails and biting, threats of suicide and even eviction from the house were some of the common forms of abuse mentioned. But perhaps the most serious was framing of false charges under the Indian Penal Code. "

As a result while a large section of women, especially activists, are happy that the act has stood the test of time for a year, there are an equal number of people who feel that this act should be abolished. Rediff News: Delhi: Protest against Domestic Violence Act

So after complete of First one year the question raised to the Lawmakers and they have to decide honestly, instead of in assumption that Domestic violence is only a gender issue and men do not face any domestic violence, where as crime Bure report says, more than 52K married men end their life after marriage vs. 28k married women end their life after marriage in 2005: "Family against Women or 21st century Women against family?"

We have to wait and see to find the answer and for that your:

Even an Animal has a Ministry and Welfare Division. Why not Men?

An appeal to Indian Government to Form Ministry of Men's Well Fare